It's your wedding day
Congratulations! This is one of the
most exciting times of your life. Revel
in the attention and the joy -- there's
nothing like getting married and beginning
the rest of your life with the
person you love.
Of course, weddings don't plan themselves.
There is a lot to arrange and
decisions to make between the
engagement and the wedding. The following
information is meant to be a
helpful guide to the wedding-planning
process. While not everything included
may apply to your particular situation,
it can help you tackle the often-overwhelming
process of planning a wedding.
What You'll Need to Arrange
Weddings come in all sizes and types.
Some are simple, while others are quite
elaborate. Either way, you'll want to
arrange for some (or all) of the following:
license, ceremony, reception location,
catering, music, flowers, photography, transportation, clothing,
rings, rehearsal dinner and honeymoon.
As you give thought to the type of ceremony
you and your intended prefer,
you may decide that you want to have a
member of a clergy perform the ceremony.
If you are not affiliated with a place
of worship, friends, or your local yellow
pages, are a good resource.
Along with the type of ceremony, you'll
want to think about what kind of reception
you'd like. Receptions can range
from a party at home or a local VFW or
Firemen's hall, to an elaborate multicourse
dinner at a restaurant or catering
hall. A lot of it will depend on your personal
style, the number of guests you're
inviting, and the costs involved. Since
cost will be a factor in whatever you do,
it's important to decide who is going to
pay for what. Traditionally, the bride's
parents covered most expenses. Today,
the groom's family -- or even the
engaged couple themselves -- often
help pay for this special occasion.
Think of Others, Too
As you are planning the wedding of your
dreams, don't forget to consider your
family and close friends. Choose a wedding
date that works best for as many
people as possible -- and let people
know well in advance. Register for gifts
early, since some people may want to
send an engagement gift when they hear
the news. Select a store everyone can get
to -- or even better, that offers registry
online -- and choose gifts within a wide
range of prices, so that everyone can
find something that works for them.
It's also important for brides-to-be to
take into account who their bridesmaids
are before deciding on a particular color
or dress style. Since bridesmaids often
pay for their dresses, you'll want them
to be happy with what they're wearing.
It doesn't take much to show kindness
and consideration to those who are
important to you -- and it will help
make your day all the more special.
Cutting Costs
Looking for ways to keep wedding costs
down? If you select a winter month --
or a Friday, Sunday, or Saturday afternoon
as opposed to a Saturday evening
-- you may be able to save significantly.
You can also save on the cost of catering
by having the wedding earlier in the
day rather than in the evening. And,
having a buffet-style reception instead
of a sit-down dinner can reduce your
catering costs, since you won't have
to pay for a wait staff.
For wedding apparel, there are many
less expensive options than bridal
shops. Renting a dress can be an
option -- or consider resale shops. A
bride may find a beautiful vintage
dress or lightly worn designer dress at
a fraction of the cost. Also, borrowing
a dress or having one made can be
good options, if available. Grooms
can rent or borrow a tuxedo instead
of buying one. Being resourceful can
help you save wedding dollars.
Internet Resources
If you have access to the Internet, it's
an excellent resource for planning a
wedding. There are dozens of wedding-
related sites that offer etiquette
and budget advice, helpful articles,
local resources lists, online planners
and organizers, and even makeup
tips. You can use the Internet to comparison
shop, or actually purchase a
dress or tux and accoutrements
online. Some helpful Web sites include
www.wednet.com; www.weddingzone.
net; and www.weddingdetails.com.
Some wedding Web sites will also give
you space to create a home page, so
relatives and friends near and far can
share in the joy and excitement of
this very special time in your life.
And the Internet is ideal for researching
and booking a honeymoon.
Protecting Your Wedding
No matter what your choices, make
sure you plan for the unexpected. Ask
wedding professionals how they
insure the event. For example, if the
reception hall you book a year in
advance goes out of business or has a
fire in the months before your wedding, make sure they'll be able to
refund the money you've given them.
Also, if you're having an outdoor wedding
or a wedding at home, you may
want to consider event insurance.
After the Wedding: Your
Financial Future Together
As you can imagine, you may find it
hard to make yourself tackle all the
things that need to get done once the
wedding and honeymoon are over
and "real life" starts again. Keep in
mind that taking care of certain
things early on can help you start
your married life off on the right foot.
Something old...
Changing Beneficiaries:
It's important
to dig out any old insurance policies,
as well as documentation for your
401(k) and/or other retirement plans
and update the beneficiary information
on each.
Existing Bank Accounts:
To some
extent, you and your spouse will
probably consolidate your finances.
Review the terms of your existing
bank accounts. Should you keep
them? Close them? Open a joint
account at the same bank?
Health and Auto Insurance:
Assess
your existing health and auto insurance.
In many cases it will save you
and your spouse a significant amount
of money to obtain joint coverage.
Something new...
What's in a Name?
If you or your
spouse change your last name, make
sure it's done on your credit cards, tax
forms, driver's license and passport,
Social Security card, and voter registration
card, as well as bank accounts
and insurance policies.
Homeowners or Renters Insurance:
If
you haven't already done so, make
sure you've protected your home and
other valuables with homeowners or
renters insurance. In addition, extend
coverage to the wedding gifts you
receive and obtain coverage for your
engagement and wedding rings.
Life Insurance Policies:
Getting married
greatly increases your need for
life insurance. Make sure both you
and your spouse have the coverage
you need.
Something borrowed...
Wedding and Honeymoon Expenses:
Weddings can be expensive. When
you and your spouse return from your
honeymoon, set up a timeframe in
which any remaining expenses from
your wedding -- such as those on
credit cards -- can be paid off, whether
with gifts received or otherwise.
Student Loans and Credit Card Debts:
Assess how much money you and
your spouse owe. Consolidating assets
can also mean consolidating liabilities.
Plan a budget to manage any debts
you and your spouse may have.
Mortgages and Other Loans:
Always
make sure you've saved enough so
that your mortgage, car payments,
and/or other loan payments fit into
your household budget.
Something blue?
With a little bit of planning, you
won't find yourself feeling blue.
A Lifetime of Happiness
From the moment of your engagement,
your and your future spouse's
lives will change forever. While you
might feel overwhelmed by all the
arrangements you need to make for
both the immediate and long-term
future, being prepared and organized
is the best way to ensure the wedding
and life of your dreams. Don't forget
to enjoy yourself and feel the excitement
of this special time.
The Indispensable Wedding Checklist
As you plan your wedding and your new life, here's a checklist to help you get organized -- imagine how satisfied
you'll feel filling in each piece of information as it is decided!
Pre-Wedding Arrangements (Some or All)
- Date
- Ceremony and reception location(s)
- Gift registration (you may want to register before any engagement party)
- Wedding Party selection:
- Maid of Honor
- Bridesmaid(s)
- Best Man
- Usher(s)
- Flower Girl(s)
- Ring Bearer
- Who will perform the ceremony
- Caterer
- Music
- Flowers
- Photographer/videographer
- Clothing for entire wedding party
- Rings
- License
- Honeymoon
Post-Wedding Life Organization
- Write thank-you notes -- the faster you get them done with, the happier you'll be!
- Update beneficiary information on insurance policies, bank accounts, 401(k) and other retirement plans
- Decide what to do about bank accounts and other assets (Consolidate? Maintain separately?)
- If one or both of you changes your last name, make sure it's done on credit cards, tax forms, driver's license,
passport, Social Security card, bank accounts and insurance policies
- Protect your home and valuables with Homeowners or Renters insurance
- Make sure you and your spouse have the life insurance protection you need
- Review your expenses and bills and create a budget to pay off any debts and loans you may have