Teens' Talk about Parents Dating Again

Teens’ Talk about Parents Dating Again

Q: My Mom is dating again, and I’m worried that she’s trying to replace my Dad. What can I do? - Anonymous, 17

The way i thought of it was that my mom dating was to make her happy and to get her mind off things. No one will ever replace your loved one in you heart. Your parent just has to have some fun time to get things off their minds..!! – Laura, 16

My mom recently started dating, and it’s really hard to adjust to. I never thought that my mom would meet someone else that she feels extremely passionate towards other than my Dad. I’m happy for my mom, because the man that she’s with is a widower, his wife died 1 year ago, and they’re very happy. I feel that marriage would be a bit extreme at this point, but all I can do is be happy for my mom, because if she’s happy, I’m happy. Make sure that you’re comfortable with the person that your Mom/Dad is dating, and if you feel a weird vibe off of them, tell your Mom/Dad. It may be awkward, but in the end it’s the best. – Julia

It can be really hard to talk to your Mom/Dad about dating after losing a parent. If you have siblings, they can help relate to what you are feeling about the current situation. If you don’t have siblings a good trustworthy friend can help you as well. Just know that your Mom/ Dad is not trying to replace your loved one. They know that no one will ever fill that void. - Joelle, 14

Talk to your Mom/Dad if you are feeling like they are trying to replace your loved one. Parents can be a great source of answers and confidence. – Timmy, 18

My mom remarried two and a half years ago and to say the least, I was not very happy. I could tell my mom was happy though and so for her sake I pretended to be okay. My mom’s husband is a nice guy, but he’s definitely not my dad. I would say it’s a hard adjustment for the whole family because everyone has to try to be comfortable with each other and figure out the kind of relationship you will all have. I’m not very close with my stepdad but I’ve been trying really hard to stay closer to my mom. It’s not an easy transition when a parent starts dating again and there is unfortunately no formula to make it that way. Each situation is different, but make sure not to keep your emotions bottled up. Having someone to talk to, whether it’s your parent, a sibling, or even just a friend, makes a difference. – Candace, 18

Your parents aren’t trying to replace your loved one. You have to understand the fact that they don’t want to spend the rest of their life alone, because before you know it, you’ll be grown up and having your own life to deal with. So, it’s not that their replacing them, and it doesn’t mean they’re over the loss, but nobody should have to spend their life alone. Talk to your parent about it, and they’ll tell you how they feel. Don’t ever be afraid to ask about it, they may not want to talk about it at the moment, but come back at a better time and discuss it together, don’t be scared to let them know how you feel. – Deanna, 13

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