5 ways we can all be more inclusive this Father’s Day

New York Life | June 08, 2021

 A gay couple smiling and laughing with their children

Today families across the U.S. are more diverse than ever. The family unit typical of 1950s’ America – the dad, the mom, the kids, and the family pet – is no longer viewed as the only acceptable norm. Every parent, whether single, gay, or transgender, is deserving of support. 

Below are 5 ways to support nontraditional Dads – and everyone – this Father’s Day.

1.    Talk to your kids about their feelings

Kids at school may feel excluded from a certain holiday. A child raised by two mothers, for example, might feel uncomfortable on Father’s Day – especially if there’s an event at school like making a card or a gift. The best thing is to be frank and open about how we feel. It’s important for people – parents, teachers, and schoolkids alike – not to assume that every child has a mother and a father.

2.    Respect that not everyone celebrates the same way

Celebration doesn’t have to be uniform. On Father’s Day, you could celebrate an uncle or a grandfather – even a donor. For whatever reason, the day might not be a cause of celebration for you. Consider how LGBTQ+ families celebrate Father’s Day too. Rather than make assumptions, you can just ask them. Just because most celebrate doesn’t mean everyone does or has to, and vice versa.

3.    Educate schoolkids about stereotypes

It’s important for all kids to feel safe and supported at school. Educating your children about perceived gender norms and stereotypes can help create and sustain a safe and supportive space at school. All kids will feel welcomed and included. Small gestures like reminding friends that Father’s Day is about celebrating your parent, guardian, or supporter – whoever they are – can make a big difference.  

4.   Have an open conversation with the family

All families can make Father’s Day a more inclusive holiday for all. Deciding what the celebration means through open dialogue can help put everyone at ease. As a family, you could focus on any loving relationship rather than the gender or role of a particular person. Not only is this more inclusive but it more accurately conveys the most important sentiment of Father’s Day: love.   

5.    Be an ally to underrepresented communities

Showing solidarity with underrepresented members of society can spread inclusivity far and wide. Communities standing shoulder to shoulder – from women to LGBTQ+ to people of color – look out for each other. Together they help foster a more inclusive space, in the community, at school, and in the home. So, Father’s Day is an opportunity to show your love, support, and appreciation to everyone.  


For more information on how New York Life champions inclusivity, read our DE&I report.


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Lacey Siegel
New York Life Insurance Company
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